The Value of Healthy Boundaries in All of Your Relationships

Consider these areas in determining your personal boundaries:

  1. Physical boundaries. Physical boundaries include space. There are certain people whom you feel comfortable standing much closer to than others. Your partner can stand closer to you than a friend, and a friend closer than a coworker. Maybe a coworker can stand closer than a stranger.

Making your boundaries clear to others:

  1. Be patient and fair. It’s not fair to expect anyone to read your mind. At the same time, you shouldn’t have to tell anyone that punching you in the face is off-limits.
  1. Be willing to say, “no.” Let others know when you don’t have the interest or time to do something. It’s okay to decline offers. People respect someone willing to say “no” once in a while. No is also part of self-care.
  2. Avoid feeling guilty. It’s rare that someone’s boundaries are too strict or are unreasonable. The opposite is usually true. There’s no reason to feel guilty about having whatever boundaries you choose to have. Others will adapt. And if they don’t, that’s okay; again, it has more to do with them and possibly their lack of healthy boundaries.
  3. Be honest about what you need from others. What you need is another type of boundary. It’s the minimum you’re willing to tolerate in order to maintain the relationship. It’s a minimum boundary instead of a maximum boundary.



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